1. Everyone involved should be adults who can freely give informed consent.
2. No means no. Stop means stop. "I forgot the safe word" = stop.
3. This is an area at high risk of transmission. Be safe. Wrap it up.
4. Use appropriate lubricant.
5. Use things made for this area (e.g. flared base).
There is a suction effect and things can disappear.
6. It is impressive how easily a bad situation can be made worse .
This is especially true with panic and especially intoxication.
7. It is okay. Everyone knows that you are embarrassed if you end up in the ER.
It is impressive to actually hear someone have the courage to be honest about an embarrassing situation.
8. If you feel unsafe and need help, especially in a medical facility, please tell someone.
You are there to receive help, not to be judged.